Who Do Ya Love?

It all starts here.

As I do more and more coaching work with others, it is clearer and clearer for me that it all starts right here.  Say that for yourself: "It all starts right here."  We can't start out there without enough right here to give.

Have you found it difficult at times to have kindness and compassion for others? Take a look at your "love-tank," and get a gauge on how full or empty it is.

Self love could be the secret to loving your life. Finding the kindness, compassion, and forgiveness for yourself is the first step to creating joy in our lives.

I like to adapt the sentence, "Love thy neighbor as thyself." With a few words added, it points at another element of that "equation." For me, it makes sense to say, "You can love your neighbor only as much as you love yourself."

And loving yourself makes it so much easier and fun! When we are loving ourselves, we fill the well of our kindness and compassion that we can then give to others, and we are confident and generous when we do.

Even though we know it's important to love thy neighbor, it all starts at home. How are you treating yourself? Just for today, can you really love yourself?

Pretend you're talking a to a five year old version of yourself and see how kind and loving you are. Even in the most challenging moments of your day, what would you say to the five year old self?

Self-love is not egotistical. It is the most important focus to fill you love tank. That's the tank from which we give to others. And it's the source of our greatest joy.

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When Do I Make That Decision?

Decisions 

My clients spend a lot of time imagining their dreams and what they would truly Love to have in their lives, and yet, there is one missing ingredient in that process. This ingredient is the difference between having our dreams come true and watching them float by on a cloud of time passing.

When we are inspired to our best, or even to serve others, there is a certain time frame when that inspiration will serve us and allow us to create from our best-version-of-ourselves.

One success guru recently wrote that the people that have achieved the greatest level of success are those that take action. Sounds pretty simple, right? And he said that the action they take is within 24 hours of the opportunity that shows up. The Universe is constantly sending us wonderful opportunities to receive exactly what we say we want, and so many times we put it off, defer to a mentality of  "if it is meant to be, it will be there tomorrow."

A friend of mine just told me about research discovering that when we are so inspired in this way, if we do not take action by the count of 4, then we won’t take any action. That means 5 seconds after an inspiring heart opening, if no action is taken it is null and void. WOW! So what have you been inspired by lately that you didn’t act upon? How quickly will you act today to be sure 5 seconds don’t pass?

The simplest action is a mental action of saying yes. That's it. That's the 4 second action. The next action is to do the physical action that will get you closer to your dreams.

If you're ready to make a powerful, positive change in your life, take action.

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Core Values Part I

As we go through our life and develop ourselves into the best-version-of-ourselves, we will do some self-assessment. Sometimes we self-assess from the perspective of what we lack. Though this might not get us thinking about what we want in the long run, it can actually be very useful to discover what our core values are.

If you are looking for ways to improve your life, it usually revolves around the things that are important to you. So as you look at your desire to "diet" or exercise, we can see that this is around the priority of health. If that is what you want in your life, then perhaps the core value that drives you is a healthy body that allows you to have high quality of life.

Looking at what we want in our lives and what is missing can frequently point us at what are the most important parts of our lives that we value above others. (That's what I love about being a transformation coach; helping people through that process of discovering what is missing.)

This is not a judgment call. More on that later.

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Unraveling The Ball of Rubber Bands

A Ball of Rubber Bands

During the Question & Answer segment of my webinar, I had a wonderful question from Beth:

"Sometimes people get into a place where they are like this big ball of rubber bands wrapped around each other, like some people collect and have on their desk. And each of these rubber bands are the things that keep this person from moving toward what it is that they truly want. It seems like there is this endless number of rubber bands, or issues, or obstacles, to unravel. It can seem overwhelming to even begin the process, and to believe that there is an end in sight. What do you say to someone in that place?"

I love this question! It really points out how important it is to have an observer in our lives to help us to see both sides of the equation when it comes to discovering our greatness.

Yes, the ball is a great analogy for all the things in our lives that can effect our ability and capacity for expressing our greatness: physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual. Yet, this is only a partial analogy.

The ball of rubber bands does not represent the core of each person that is screaming to get out and be expressed! The key perspective is to be able to see both parts of the ball; the rubber bands on the outside, and the unlimited and powerful core of a unique human potential to create on the inside.  Once we include that human powerhouse to the model, there are now two forces at work.

It requires attention to all the parts to bring freedom to the individual; unraveling the ropes and rubber bands that hold us back, as well as cultivating and nurturing the indomitable human spirit that wants to be free and express all that is possible.

That's the magic of Transformation Coaching.

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To your greatness,
Larry Watson

Dam That Abundance!

Dam That Abundance!

The law of circulation is known to be powerful for attracting abundance in our lives, and yet, is it an equation of balance? Must we give everything we receive? Maybe not entirely...

Of course, we want to experience the flow of abundance THROUGH us. And, most of us would also like to experience a bit of security and peace of mind that comes with a reserve of abundance that is already on hand for any upcoming expenses. And it would be great to have a reserve of abundance that would allow for desires that arrive in our minds and hearts, with little delay in manifestation. A version of immediate gratification, right?

What does that look like to you? How does it align with the law of circulation?

If we think of this flow of abundance as a river, then we participate in that flow with the acceptance and receiving of the abundance that is possible as we flow that abundance into the world in the ways that we choose. I get this part, and I love it when it shows up in my life.

It occurred to me that when there is a flow of abundance, to use the anaolgy of a river, a lake might be created with a dam, and perhaps a hydroelectric plant built to take advantage of this reservoir. As the lake is filled, the energy that is possible as it flows through the system benefits many. That energy flows out beyond the river valley, and allows many positive things to happen.

When it comes to the law of circulation, there is no limit to abundance. Our imagination is the resource for creating that flow, and with the mindset of a reservoir, we can then imagine and manifest the unlimited rainfall that fills our cup.

This reservoir creates a consistent flow so the lake withstands floods or droughts without serious effect.

What a great concept! I love it! Now that I have a mental picture, my mindset and visioning of abundance can much more easily include the abundance reservoir that brings ease and grace into my life, and to everyone around me. 

My new home is on Lake Abundance. Care to join me?

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Strength or Distraction?

I love using StrengthFinders 2.0 to help my clients discover their strengths. And it has finally sunk into my brain that strengths can also become distractions. Thanks to an understanding of polarities, I am able to see the flip side of the coin of Strengths.

In the thinking technology of managing Polarities, There is not only the polaritiy of seemingly contrasting intentions, but even within a focus there is the polarity of extremes, of good and bad, as well as where we apply our strengths.

Example: a baseball glove works well on the ballfield, though using it as a glove for cleaning snow off the car might be a bit awkward. OK, that one is a bit extreme, but it gives you an idea about application.

So lets apply this to the way we live our lives.

One of my strengths is intellection. Yeah, a funny word. What it means is that I like to analyze things, examine the parts, put them back together, find the source of thoughts, ask the questions that get to the core of your greatest potential. I've found (and others have, too) that this is a very powerful strength for coaching. And yet, it can have some drawbacks when applied in less useful places in my life, or when applied as a default modality, if I'm not thinking about it.

When it runs amuck in my business life, it can cause stagnation and indecision. Paralysis by analysis, if you will. When looking at options and opportunities, I can examine and question and analyze until I'm blue in the face. Decisions need to be made. Some decision are better when relying more on intuition.

Sometimes I find myself drawn into intellection when there is other work to be done that requires more focus. That's when I find myself staring off into space (or the computer screen) for minutes at a time. Distraction. Can you relate?

And unfettered intellection is certainly a handicap when it comes to centering or meditating.

The realization of this strength as a distraction allows me to now be aware of when it is happening. Sometimes. This awareness of my default tendencies is a new muscle that I'm exercising, so I'm not beating myself up when it doesn't happen all the time.

Awareness is the first step to self-empowerment, and then we can choose again.

What is your distraction?

When is it your strength?

Those are the polarities that we can manage. Doesn't that feel better?

Affirming your greatness,
Larry Watson

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Dragging It Around

Waking up in the morning, thoughts of yesterday float through my head. And something that I regret, some little (or big) thing that I did or didn’t do, gives me a sense of remorse, maybe even guilt. Maybe in some small way I judge myself, condemn myself and look for a way of punishing myself. 

Sound familiar?

I’ve already pulled out the bat and began to beat myself up over the things done and undone. And the greatest punishment that I seemed compelled to perpetuate is the act/inaction of repeating it. Is that really necessary? Really?

What is the new attitude that will allow the release of these obstacles and momentum?

Today is a new day. I start fresh today, with the grace of an open window called today. Bringing yesterday in through that window is totally unnecessary! Each day, the grace of this Universe allows us to start fresh, without a tally of wrongs and inadequacies. Start fresh with an eye on our potential and power, the shining light of all that we were born as. 

Take off the dark glasses of ego-imposed judgment, no longer ground-focused, and look up at all the choices that serve joyful intentions and core values.

The bat I was using was the bat of the perpetuation of sabotaging my self-actualizing. It’s not only a matter of “doing” the things that are in alignment with my purpose and joy, but rather a process of forgiveness and letting go of the self-imposed sentence of a poor set of directions in conflict with my internal GPS.

This is the open door to the grace of our  untapped potential, and  the unleashing of our greatness. When we leave the guilt and resentment at the threshold, this day, this hour is the door to our present joy.

I am here for you when you need the support to create that joy.